Itās not totally uncommon for standardised tests and even normal tests to have a guessing penalty. The SAT stateside has a guessing penalty and every multiple choice test I took in high school had a guessing penalty except for one teacher who was trying to be everyoneās favourite.
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Well I think itās actually common for multiple choices, the point is the question itself which was cruel.
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Not really, itās a common law test for all of India but thereās a section of general knowledge which can also include international news. It can be literally anything, like once they asked World Water dayās date out of all things.
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Check the edits if youāre desperate for context. Gosh, I overexplain.
Essentially a friend has been teasing and ribbing me a lot in our friendship, and itās bothered me a ton since we first met.
Felt very uncomforable as she was doing so last night
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I dont know you or Fran in real life, but basically all of my true friendships are exactly like that, we swear and cuss all the time, thats just the way we are 
We run a Youth/Culture Center in our free time, we are a official licensed club and organize workshops, concerts, a queer meeting, a repair cafĆ©, help other organizations out when they need Staff for Stands and so onā¦it happened more than once that people asked me or my friends something like āerrmā¦are you mad at each other or do you guys even like each other?ā and we all start laughing, like hell yeah, those fucking Bastards are the greatest people Iāve ever met 
What Iām trying to say is that Fran is probably just a person like me and my friends, we call this āHart aber herzlichā in germany āhard but heartfeltā.
Maybe sheās just a Bitch tho 
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If youāre really hurt by her words then tell her you donāt like it. Like actually make it clear you do no longer accept being humiliated for fun. If she doenst take you seriously sheās no longer a friend. Real friends respect boundaries.
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I agree with @Danger_dog_guy_7. But I wish to had a bit.
If she is genuine, and I hope so. It means that the way she talks about you is part of the way she sees your friendship.
So if you present a categoric negative, it would be a negative to the way you friendship currently realizes itself. And that would be the way the conversation, and it consequences will go, negative, diminishing.
I would advise you to be positive in your friendship. ie to add something to it.
Maybe, donāt ask her to scale back on your dynamic. Ask her to enhance it. Ribbing between friends is fine, but so much more is to do. Tell her that maybe sometimes it would be good to have another tone to explore. Because your friendship is dear.
If it happens, and since time is in the habit of being rigid in its amount, proportion of the current dynamic will diminish. Scaling from near toxic, to the kind of acidity that makes a great friend.
I think.
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it sounds like your friend Fran likes to participate in playful jest with you. and yes, āplayful jestā exists indeedāup until a point. when it starts getting to you, or becoming too frequent or one sided, thatās when it stops being playful and just plain mean.
it sounds like you guys have had fun together, though. if you want to keep making good moments together, and Fran is a real friend, then it wouldnāt hurt to bring this up to her, right? sheād understand. if she makes a joke at your confession and you feel even more hurt, then perhaps distance yourself for a bit and consider things. is she stressed about things and youāre an easy target? why does she actually do it? is she worth keeping as a friend in the end? these are important things to ponder.
speaking your mind is always worth a try. i hope this situation improves for you, Chicken. 
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Okay, so, maybe writing all that at 2am in bed and sad wasnāt the best idea 
, itās not entirely as bad as I made it sound, I think. But still, it kinda got me down today, and Iāve thought about it a lot today. Iām glad to read some of your insightful responses here after also discussing this with my sister too (she felt a bit awkward being deluged with all the school gossip on people she doesnāt even know).
Right, Ochoa for the debriefing. I get it. People often rib and tease each other in friendships, and that is what sheās doing here. Mostly teasing I guess. But I think my thing is that Iām not that kind of person, or Iām not used to it (not that I have to get used to it though).
Thanks @Danger_dog_guy_7 and @LandirtHome. If she does value our friendship, I should probably just say it straight out and hope she understands to respect that.
And thanks mysterious assassin in the rain @v1deost. Like, we did spend 6 months together in an apartment, and as of now, her new place has a roommate she doesnāt really like, and sheās extended an offer to me to move in when they move out next Aprilā¦
We have a good relationship, yeah, I think Iāve just followed my anxiety too much in terms ot taking the hits, even if itās bothered me. gotta learn to put my foot down.
Iāll try to bring it up with her. I donāt know if this might be better as a face-to-face issue or not, like invite her for a lunch out or something.
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Always better face to face if possible. Body language and facial expression is lost on the phone and even more is lost in text.
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First I want to apologize because this may come off a little harsh, but sometimes thatās better then suger coating things. It sucks when if feels like youāve invested in someone or something and donāt see it recipocated, but you shouldnāt rely on other people to try and make you feel better because youāll set yourself up for disappointment eventually. No one but you has control of your feelings.
For surface level problems we can only do so much but the deeper rooted problems require people who know what they are doing like maybe a theraispt. However if youāve been feeling this way for weeks, maybe a better option is to vent physically in a controlled environment, like say a boxing gym. Get a punching bag and unload on it until youāre exhausted. Sometime it works.
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Sorry, Iāll steer clear of it. 
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Iām sorry your friends arenāt there for you when youāve needed them most. youāre genuinely one of the nicest people here (for example, you always post everyoneās birthdays in the birthday thread with a cute bear pun). itās clear you put yourself out there a lot and it sucks that you havenāt been getting it back from those closest to you. maybe step back and do less with them, see if they say something about it. if they do, just say youāre giving them the treatment that they gave you? itās a lame situation though, ursam, I hope you may feel better soon.
and I know itās been a few hours, but if youāre still wound up you could try jogging to get your anger out. breaking a sweat is said to help boost good feelings
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Thanks. Iāll deal with this the only way I know Iāll get results.
And honestly, this was shitty timing more than anything. They arrived when I was on my high point of rage and well, now they are the focus of it. Unfortunate but has already been 3 weeks. Weāll see what happens. Meanwhile, I will focus on other people and myself of course.
In the end, everything can be corrected and new habits formed. Sometimes you just gotta apply some pressure.
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Aw man that sounds like a really tough situation. Iām sorry your friends arent giving you enough support you need, or that they seemed to ignore you on your birthday.
I donāt know any of your friends, so thatās probably why Iād give them the benefit of the doubt here, (maybe they were tired, maybe they were stressed, any number of reasons why they may have forgot or didnāt offer much help in the moment) but you know them better than me so I trust you on that.
On this note though I think the first person was being genuine with āhonestly donāt know what to say other thanā¦ā and they just didnāt know what to offer up to help.
But that second one feels flat, yeah,
However again, I donāt know the context of who these people are, so maybe that first one felt disingenuous based on what you know of them. 
I agree with Nazarethās advice of trying to find something ācontrolledā/legal to take your anger out on if you can, or see if you can get in touch with a therapist.
Take it from me, having someone experienced in listening to you and offer solutions or work through things that normally are piled up in your head is liberating. But thatās just my take on it.
(While on the subject, I know I may have teased art for people in the Birthday Thread some 2 and a half weeks ago, yes, Iām still working on some of it. Art has been slow for me lately. Itās on and off, again and again. I do hope to dump about 8 or 10 of them at once when theyāre done thoughā¦ then i can play catch-up again 
)
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Whelpā¦itās happening. The two absolutely important law entrance exams, both for two colleges in Delhi, are about to happen tomorrow and the day after that. It wouldāve helped if one didnāt set its exam center 36kms from here and at 10am to 11:30am, which is typically the time I wake up but oh well.
Iāve discovered a trick which helps in alleviating the stress a bit, itās to think of the questions in the exam as side quests from a game and that game is the exam. I absolutely love side quests from games like The Witcherino tres and the recent Dying Light 2, and somehow, thinking about it like this makes me excited to give the exam, as opposed to a few moments before my discovery of this trick, when I was dreading how big the exam is with 150 questions in 90 minutes and was feeling lethargic because of it. But now Iām, for the lack of a better word, hyped.
Funny talk asideā¦Thereās one big reason I want to stay in Delhi, that someone close to me lives here, and I donāt want to be away from her. If I get into the college weāll be just 20 minutes away from each other. She tells me not to worry and that an exam does not set anyoneās worth, but thereās just so much pressure. One thing Iām scared about is brain fog, that sometimes happens during the exam and I donāt want to mess it up because of that. Iāve prepared a lot harder this time round, at least two times than that of last year and dad says he knows Iāll get in, that it was just a margin of 3.5 marks last year and the better preparation and the experience of giving the exam two times already will help and Iāll make it. Oh, I so,so wish I would get in this time. This song expresses the feeling perfectly:
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Good luck then, Mr. Rangan! Donāt stay too late because of the hype though. I hope your body and your mind will be fully ready for the exams! 
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I wish you extreme good luck, you deserve to get what ye want
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Best of Luck for your Exam bhai and hope you get selected in good college in Delhi, Gurgaon or Noida area. Delhi is one of my favourite place, my aunt and another uncle stays in CR Park and Vasant Kunj area 
Tension mat lena, sahi jayega exam.
Delhi ke logo ka dil bada hota hai (People of Delhi has a big heart).
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best of luck! 
20202020
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