Also worth keeping in mind she brought an animal into his house without consent and is borderline negligent of her young child.
Swang bro needs assistance.
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Why did you even care to ask? Just buy it. I understand it could be difficult despite its irrelevance to them but just doing it wouldnāt put much options left for them.
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I need to clarify some aspects, just for the sake of setting misconstrued points just to go over the timeline of events.
Firstly this isnāt my house, I moved in with a relative who was getting up in age to assist them. It is a mutually beneficial arrangement. Iām close to work, they get someone more young and able to help around. Trash, Shovel Snow, Mow Lawn, Tech Assistance, and whatever is requested of me. This arrangement also isnāt a free ride and I do contribute towards the upkeep of the house and its bills.
Secondly, we took in my aunt and two cousins in July 2023, after they showed up on our door step despite the fact leading up to this said relative insisted that we had no space for all of them. This isnāt the first time they came into this house prior to me coming in. Aunt for reasons I canāt disclose here and simply not at liberty to discuss publicly is no longer living in this house. This happened back in September of 2023.
Thirdly, Cousin number 3 came in January after an episode with a dog she took off a familyās lawn on New Yearās Eve. She showed up at the doorstep cause again she had nowhere else to go after getting kicked out of her God Parents for again the situation I mentioned on New Yearās Eve. Following this she would bring men who are complete strangers into the house. I try to be proactive but within reason especially after coming home but before hand I did consult my relative first and bought a nest camera just for my room. They insisted no one was going in my room, but not even a day later I got footage of her and the guy she was messing around with at the time in there. As someone who genuinely just wants to be left alone, this was an invasion of my own privacy.
Since then, I did make changes to how I approach groceries in an effort to be self sufficient and not be an additional mouth to feed. So I started getting my own groceries with the few exceptions here and there previously it was a you buy stuff I buy stuff we contribute situation, but with so many people in the house it became hard to keep up with that. Iāll occasionally get some stuff for my relative and while she insisted on paying me back I would say no to it. Iāll never let the youngest cousin go hungry. She is just a kid and that needs to be stated clearly.
There are occasions where my relative and I will go out to eat together but itās either I pay the bill or separate checks.
Lastly, the eldest cousin has essentially brought in her boyfriend despite my relative insisted we donāt have space. He will leave for a day, but then he will come back for six days. He doesnāt contribute anything, all he does is sit the bed room upstairs and plays Xbox.
Iāve tried to stay clear of any sensitive situation in the house. The only time I would bring stuff up is when it could A. Become a potential issue for everyone or B. When specific instruments involving bodily fluids is left about for everyone to see.
Other than that I would stay clear of anything. I sleep in the basement so I hear the arguments and fighting every week. Iāve gotten tired of it, Iām tired of having the need to act like Iām walking on egg shells even for really trivial things. I donāt envy my relative cause she has been put in a very shitty situation and all I can say is āI donāt know what you want me to say or tell youā. Iāve said that if this continues something needs to be done, but the moral dilemma is the well being of the youngest child.
Itās just a shitty situation thatās unraveling at the seems. Any compromise is non negotiable since itās just playing victim or screaming matches. Canāt have a rational conversation and be adults. To them weāre just being weird when we speak about potential issues and potential solutions. We arenāt doing it to talk behind their back, this isnāt highschool. This is the wellbeing of the house/household and its health and upkeep.
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Simply out of respect towards my relative who is the homeowner. This isnāt with every purchase I make obviously.
I consulted her about the nest camera in my room and how it would strictly only be in my room which became an issue to my cousins if they constantly bring it up when a fight happens. Because something that doesnāt affect them is somehow affecting them right?
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Respectfully, why are you venting here about this? You cant live like this my friend.
What youve said doesnt really change anything. Either the homeowner kicks them out and honors the arrangement they had with you or you move yourself.
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I assumed you were living with your parents. it does make more sense now.
Update: theyāre getting kicked out by the end of the summer.
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Iām with @pissfloyd here.
Since itās not your place then a conversation with the person youāre helping needs to happen and you give the ultimatum. Them or you will be moving out by X day. Whatever X day isā¦ donāt let them call a bluff. Be ready to move on if theyāre not out.
-I see āend of summerā in your post. Do you have a clearly defined day?
Also, sorry youāre going through that. It sounds like no fun.
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Before August 26, to be more exact they have to be out before the new school year starts for the youngest.
They know theyāve overstayed their welcome and Iām gonna see to it that my relative has the proper notices for them that way they have no choice but to honor it.
I didnāt want it to come to this, but they walked on us time and time again, played stupid games and earned stupid rewards, and just in general took advantage of our good nature.
Iām looking forward to things going back to normalcy.
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My momās travelling to Sydney for work next month and she invited me along, but I had to apply for an Australian visa and itās been a nightmare.
First I rushed through the application and mistakenly answered āYESā to whether I was a convicted domestic abuser when Iām not. I should have gotten Mom to fill it up for me. I deleted that application and sent a corrected version, which cost another $20 and apparently may still result in both being rejected. Then I had to create an ImmiAccount which cost $200 and I need to fill up more forms.
And even if I didnāt screw up the first application, visitor visas take about a month to process, and thatās without errors. Iām pretty sure I coughed up $240 in Australian dollars for nothing.
No wonder our games never had a mission in Australia; 47 never made it past visa application.
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Yeah, we donāt make it easy for anyone that is for sure. In the future be sure to take your time filling out the forms though.
Anyway hope you enjoy Sydney once (If?) you ever get there.
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Thanks. Mom would have spent the whole week going to business meetings, so I probably would have spent my time there alone, wandering around the hotel or downtown. Maybe I would have popped down to your opera house or sampled the local cuisine.
What are you famous for? Steak? Pizza? Any restaurant suggestions? Just nothing too expensive.
Itās been a real lousy month so far. Biden floundered the debate, Trump survived and Albanese thinks Iām a wifebeater.
You a native Sydneysider?
I am sorry mate, I am an Adelaidean. So I canāt recommend anywhere specific
Generally we have really good beef, and most steak houses in this country prepare and cook it similar to Americans though the names might be different. Oh and seafood of course, there is probably no short of small, local joints where you can get fish and chips or an AB pack (although I believe in NSW they call them Halal Snack Packs, that is lamb, beef and/or chicken seared on a grill served on a bed of chips with sauce.)
Oh Sydney probably has some good pizza most Australian cities do but they donāt make them like they do down here in SA though.
Sydney is the countryās most expensive city that being said there is probably a lot of cheap food at the smaller and more local places especially outside of the CBD.
Lucky Albanese has bigger problems to worry about. It is a mistake, they happen (especially if you rush official paperwork) and they can correct it.
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Everything feels lame. Thereās a lot of factors. this summer job is harder than anticipated and I make less at this than I did in fast food/retail. Still grateful. But doing so much prep work everyday, at 5 am, weekends, always arriving with a smile on your face and dealing with kids when youāve never been a people-person gets old. I also age out of my health insurance in about a month, which includes my meds that keep me productive and functioning like a normal person. So when that goes belly up everything is totally fucked. Iāve been job hunting for some place, literally any place, that has benefits but I keep getting ghosted. And when my meds run out I fear I wonāt be able to focus or be motivated enough to animate/draw normally and that scares me because thatās my livelihood.
Because of everything getting in the way, Iāve hardly turned on the Xbox since eliminating The Disruptor and that feels sad. Today I also quit my unpaid remote internship because it was too stressful and it asked for more time than I had. Oh, and I screwed up a cookie recipe today and had to throw it out. It seems silly to add that but I really think life is not meant to be anymore. not at this point. This was kind of all over the place. Thanks for reading, if you did.
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Sorry to hear youāre dealing with all that. A pile of stressful things happening at once is always difficult. 
While quitting the internship might not have been what you originally planned, it might be for the best. Just having more free time to focus on yourself or other tasks that need your attention will let you get a better handle on your life and things around you. Itās hard to get everything sorted into order when youāre just constantly loaded or dealing with day to day chaos.
For your medication Iād check if you can qualify for any Drug Assistance Program to get them for free or at a lower price. That might be your best bet until you can get new health insurance.
Also idk if you are gonna attempt to make more cookies but if you would like any tips or advice Iād be happy to help. They are the one thing I can successfully bake just due to the amount of times Iāve made them at this point. 
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Yo, itās me again. My momās cancelled the Australia trip so thatās no longer a worry. I also wasted $200 shopping for books afterwards.
While I was ordering some apple strudel, my right leg decided to fuck me and cramped. Charley horse, dead leg, muscle spasm, whatever its called, it really fucking hurt, floored me for a full minute until a nice couple help me limp to the supermarchĆ©. The staff there helped me into a wheelchair and wheeled me back home. Great guys, hope they wonāt Wet Bandit me now that they know my address. Luckily, my family were fast asleep, so they didnāt hear about my adventure. For the record, I can still walk, albeit with a limp and it still kinda hurts.
My grandmother has Alzheimerās and we got her a wheelchair, funny how I ended up in one before she did.
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If it makes you feel any better it sounds like you just had cramping, it happens to lots of people including me. Leg cramps are the worst, so glad I havenāt had one in ages.
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Didnāt know that existed. Thank you. Thatās something to look into. Actually posting this here led me to finally schedule a phone call with an insurance representative, so perhaps something will come out of that.
Thanks for the offer. Sometimes a fresh baked cookie is like the best thing ever. The thing is, Iād realized that I had run out of two ingredients too late, tried to substitute them, and it screwed up the whole thing. Not much could be done to salvage it by that time. 
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Got my first job! Iām working part-time as a waiter at a Japanese restaurant. Hours are long and tiring but payās good enough and staff are accommodating. Familyās glad Iām not being a louse as well. Iāll see how long I can stick with it.
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Been away from the forum due to a lot of family related issues.
Everything is fine right now, but my presence in here is not gonna be prevalent for the foreseeable future.
Iāll still fulfill my obligations to TRM, but beyond that my interaction with yall will be sparse.
Remember to be good people 
-Blake āSwangtheuglyā
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