I havenāt been doing the best lately. Recently Iāve been dealing with a new episode of depression and the people around me havenāt helped. In the past Iāve always had the support of my friends online when Iām down but after a stupid drama occurred in my friend group they kept pressuring me to pick a side. I decided to not get involved but that just made me lose them. I used to hang out with them multiple times a week but now I barely hear from them anymore or they just outright ignore me and donāt reply. Itās been upsetting me because I just want things to go back to when they were better but they canāt. I think Iāve been struggling to accept that and finally move on.
Besides that Iāve had lots of changes in my life (some good, some bad) from a new job, learning to adjust my schedule, trying to go back to college, and other crap thatās been making it really difficult for me to deal with all this in a short period of time. I have autism which doesnāt really make it any easier. Whenever my routines or things around me change itās difficult to adjust. But with so much happening at once I just feel constantly overwhelmed and upset.
My family hasnāt been helping me during this either. A few days ago I was feeling depressed so I just laid in bed all day. Then one of my family members decided a great idea would be to yell at me while in that state. I couldnāt handle it and just mentally shut down and burst into tears.
Itās just been feeling much harder to deal with than in the past because I donāt feel like I have my old friends or family to support me. I think feeling lonely has been the main contributor to how Iām doing right now.
Idk I felt like I needed to let this out somewhere. Itās two in the morning and this has been eating me up inside the last few hours.
I am sorry about that friend group. Not picking a side sounds to me like the best move, especially if the dispute was over something silly. Weāve all had those canāt do anything except lay in bed days. Donāt let it happen again tomorrow though. Even if it seems impossible at least put your shoes on and go for a walk outside. If you get the shoes on then the rest is easy. Anyway I hope youāre feeling better soon.
PS: 2 am huh? We got another central time zone guy here!
Luckily I havenāt had this happen again since it occurred a few days ago. Even if Iām not feeling the best I just try to force myself to do something whether it be simple like sitting outside. Also Iām in the Eastern Standard Time Zone, not CMT.
I think Iāll use the time I have to relax and just focus on things I enjoy. I have the next 3 days off of work. So Iām thinking Iāll do some baking to keep my mind focused on something else. Havenāt decided what yet. Thanks @Yacob
Itās starting to be more frequent. Maybe 2x or 3x a month, but that is up from once every other month not that long ago. I have cut out pepperoni and other obvious foods but now I can have 2 margaritas and a not spicy taco for lunch and half way between lunch and go home time at my desk and it just comes out of nowhere. I am too young to be having to take a prilosec every day (I think). I am gonna have to talk to the doctor. How do people cope with this? Iād rather have a migraine or get punched by a big huge tough guy every day than deal with this.
Ouch, I feel for you man. IĀ“ve been suffering from the occasional heartburn pretty much since childhood (though probably much more when I was little, lol). Improving my general eating/drinking habits has always been the best long-term solution for me, since nowadays I basically only get it when I overdo it with booze or spicy/junky stuff, but as a quick remedy, Rennie tablets have always worked well for me, so you might wanna give those a go if you can get them in the States. Alternatively, I also remember almonds (yeah, just plain, raw, non-peeled almonds) being pretty effective, at least when I was a kid. That was my grandmaĀ“s solution.
Get checked. If youāre having it that often, something could be wrong. When it starts happening to my wife 15 years ago, she ended up having her gallbladder taken out.
Iāve had chronic acid reflux for a couple decades now. I take an over the counter medication for it on the advice of my doctor. I have to watch what I eat and almost anything spicy is out. I almost never eat Mexican as a result (yes, there are non-spicy options but itās just easier to avoid the whole cuisine). Itās a major pain and eventually will become throat cancer if I donāt keep it under control (Barrettās Esophagus). I feel for ya.
I eat and drink too much. It causes heartburn. When I overeat or overdrink, my heartburn is bad. It keeps me up at night. Farting is but a fleeting salve. Itās taken years to really accept and face and internalize the causal truths. Iām making progress towards avoiding the painful results of partying. Discipline is not easy. Pay attention to what youāre consuming and perform informal tests with yourself as the subject: āIf I abstain from this or that consumable, do I feel the burn later?ā
Itās true that it could be a sign of something serious, and always consult a doctor. But itās usually the most obvious culprit: diet, stress, lifestyle. (Even smoking can cause/exacerbate heartburn, do you smoke?..)
Cutting out the stress-relieving drink sucks.
So does staying up all night with your body screaming at you.
By the way I believe I heard itās bad to take heartburn meds long term, as the body gets used to the meds addressing the problem, as opposed to lifestyle change fixing it. Short term is totally fine, and surely some will argue, but Iām just relaying something I read when I myself was doing a lot of research into this topic. Consult your doctor.
my middle sibling had severe acid reflux for years, to the point that it literally was dissolving the lining of their esophagus and they couldnāt eat without coughing fits that ended in vomiting. They have been on OTC Prilosec for the past 5 years now and itās so much better. Get that checked out.
Had this issue for years. Done OTC acid reducers and proper PPIs to no great effect.
My personal experience with managing it involves zero caffeine and zero greasy/ultra processed food. Iāve also managed to quit smoking.
At this point in time, the reflux is negligible, I still get hints of it but itās nothing compared to how it was.
Hope you get better, itās truly miserable. You might wanna get scoped to rule out helicobacter pylori
Today I witnessed something incredibly heartbreaking and it quite literally ruined my day.
A Stray Black kitten was running outside my jobs parking lot. For context itās a very tight parking lot thatās very busy, so I instantly went into action hoping I could get the poor thing somewhere safe.
It crawled up a customers car and while we asked them to check for us they didnāt do a good jobā¦.
When the customer left they hit the poor baby and in turn broke its back leading to its death. I witnessed it and it was just rough to see. The customers drove off without a care and Iām just in ruin right now and need to put my thoughts down.
Iām just upset and angry cause I could have done more.
I hope the poor fur baby is somewhere better now atleast.
Sorry to hear that. I recently had a similar experience myself (not sure if mentioned it here), but I witnessed a cat get killed by an ignorant driver and notice for unpleasant explanation: poor thing got beheaded and the body was jumping around for a few minutes I had trouble sleeping for the next few days.
Iām so sorry that you had to witness that. Cats are such gentle creatures. Itās unfortunate that it happened, Iām sure theyāre in a better place and at peace.
Iām so so sorry you had to witness that, Swang. It sounds horrifying to simply read and no one should ever have to see that happen. The carelessness of some people in this world is equal parts astounding and infuriating.
You did the most that you could in the moment, though. Thereās no place for āwhat ifsā at this point and itās ultimately the driverās fault since you alerted them and they acted callously. Itās okay. The cat is probably in a better place now. The same canāt be said for the customers.
I try to be patient and speak to people rationally and calm, but I just learned to walk away after they begin to throw a screaming match to shut people down.
Iād say approximately about 45ish minutes ago i mentioned/ brought up how the fridge is just stocked to the point where it could break, and also the issue of the lack of space for when I purchase groceries or when my relative purchases groceries.
The refrigerator situation is borderline communal and so itās essentially first come first server on the available real-estate.
I mention the space issue simply because I like my cousins and my relative equally need to eat. I try to find solutions to problems instead of creating more problems, but somehow my solution is a problem.
My solution was for me to buy a decently sized Mini-Fridge that way at least I can transfer what little I have in the fridge and freezer that way it freeās up what space I do take. Said mini-fridge wouldāve went in the laundry room which is in the basement since the proper outlets are there for it.
This was overheard by the eldest cousin and I tried to explain to her calmly and collected that the way everything is in there now isnāt good for the refrigerator. As someone who lived in a dorm with a communal fridge I know that the way with how filled it is it will break and then no one would have a refrigerator/freezer . But she just yelled up a storm and cited how āwe were being weirdā for having this conversation. I walked away, and just gave up Iām tired of walking on egg shells when I quite literally did nothing to them or to go against them. Iām just trying making a rather unsavory living situation more comfortable. I donāt know, I just need to vent somewhere.
Im just at my wits end and donāt know what to do with all this unnecessary drama. I get they were dealt an unfair hand and they have responsibility, Iād never undermine the burden they have, we all have our issues and while Iām more reserved with speaking about mine I just wish they knew and would listen that Iām not out to get them and never have been. I just wake up, go to work, sleep, and repeat. I do whatās asked of me and try to keep my head low.
Why do you need to consult them for buying your own fridge?
Edit: okay so i just looked at your post history. The house is yours and you aunt and two cousins showed up on the doorstep and needed a temporary place to stay, right?
Im sorry to inform you, but if this has been going on for months, sheās likely not planning on leaving. If your cousins also bully you in your own house the only fitting solution I see is booting them out.
Your aunt will likely gaslight you about this and say it isnt like that. This is when you call the police for assistance.
Itās a shitty thing but itās not productive to have three people stomping all over you in your house. Iām afraid youāre too blinded by empathy to see the actual problem.