šŸ—£ Sessions with Lafayette - Serious Issues Thread

Damn that’s bullying, discrimination and inappropriate workplace behavior all at once, I’m sorry you had to/are having to go through that :confused: is there a tribunal or a workplace advocacy group you can go to? Or join a union to get their legal team on it?

Failing that, sue them and see how their small company deals with allegations of a toxic workplace!

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What @Gontranno47 said. And if you can, if it’s an option for you, go with the biggest and most well-known law office that you can, so that it gets as much exposure as possible.

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And collect every item of workplace bullying you’ve experienced since and from now on, so you have a case file full of them. And once you’re done with the legal route, sell the story to an online journal. I normally don’t go for such an aggressive route, but otherwise they’re free to continue doing it whoever they hire :confused:

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Plus, it will give any other smaller companies who are doing similar things and believe they’re below the radar serious concerns once they hear about it. It could potentially help others in a similar position. When this behavior is systemic like this, the only way to truly deal with it is full exposure. Otherwise, if it only deals with the individuals who personally participated in the behavior, it still opens up retaliation down the road when everyone moves on from talking about it, once other reasons are thought of to take disciplinary actions against the complainant.

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There are also sites where you can rate your (former) employer where you can write that. That can be extra painful for companies that are small and therefore like have few or no other ratings yet.

Though I do not want to suggest such a platform as I think you need to be a bit careful it is a legit one, and my experience is limited to my country. Surely you should keep evidence at home in case the company tries to get such a review removed.

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Today has been the scariest day of my life.

Recently here in Pennsylvania we had a snow storm. This resulting in sleet and ice on the roads especially in my neck of the woods and by extension my partners.

They spent the night with me during this storm out of safety concerns. I took them home earlier this morning so they can get ready for work. Me being the good boyfriend cleaned off their car and got it ready for their short commute. I kiss them goodbye, tell them I love them, and to have a good day I work.

I leave, they follow 10 minutes after, shortly after they leave they get into an automobile accident not far from their house.

They got transported to the ER, and upon hearing this news from their mom my world just shattered. A lot of concerns and worries. I won’t get into the specifics but their mom, step dad and I have been in the ICU for hours. Their mom and I have been spending time with them speaking to them. Letting them know we’re here.

I’ll be spending the night here with them as their eyes and ears for their mom. Just to keep them updated.

But what’s important is they’re stable, and resting.

I love them immensely, so seeing them like this and knowing how they’re gonna beat themselves up over this. I’m just glad they’re still with us.

Hug your loved ones folks and constantly tell them you love them even if you’re annoying about it.

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Can’t even imagine, and can’t think of any words that won’t sound like condescending crap from a privileged one who hasn’t experienced it, so I’ll just say to stay strong and I’m hoping for the best outcome in the fastest time for you.

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Stay strong :heart:

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Oh brother I’m sorry to hear this. Hang in there! Sending hugs :hugs: to you and your partner.

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I’m so sorry to hear about what happened, it’s the call nobody wants to get :confused: but at least they’re stable and they’re in the best place they could be right now (except, of course, back home)

Maybe see if you can take some time off work to be with your partner, at least until the dust settles and you have a clearer picture what the coming weeks will look like. I wish you both a swift recovery

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Thank You Everyone even for the birthday wishes.

It’s just gonna be a long road ahead and I’m trying to not let things that are being said get to me cause I know they don’t mean it.

I’ve probably spent 2.5 Days sleeping here at the hospital. While they’re awake I just know with the pain they’re in I’m put in impossibilities.

Cause of the pain and anxiety they want a vape, I can’t get them that cause of hospital regulations. These bouts happen cause of in between periods for medications most prominently in the morning during shift changes with nurses.

The trauma they faced makes them think I want them to suffer that I’m not doing anything. I know I’m doing a lot, running around making sure their job knows what happened, getting them whatever I can to make them feel comfortable such as Oragel or Gatorade. I just wish I could take this pain away from them but I can’t.

The road ahead is rough, I just know the sooner we get passed with hospital the sooner I can meet their needs.

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Damn you’re in a tough situation :confused: but you’re doing all the right things. The pain will heal and when they’re out of the hospital, they’ll realize the things you did for their sake while they were in it.

It’s just the period before then that will test you both, when the pain makes them say things they normally wouldn’t. But this here is what brings out the best in the bond with our partners: persevering through thick and thin for the person we care about, even when we think we can’t go on. You’ll both be stronger for it, when you’re eventually through the woods.

In a situation where everything seems to have changed, be their constant and know that while there are things you can’t help with, simply being there makes the world of difference.

You’re doing just fine :slight_smile:

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Good News.

My Partner has been moved from Trauma into the Rehabilitation Wing.

also good news someone created a GoFundMe with the intention of securing them a new Car. So far $860 out of the $4000 goal has been reached. Been mainly asking friends and family if they can donate something and that if they can’t to at the very least share it around.

Things are getting better, it’s the first time since the accident where I laid with them. And I managed to get them relaxed and asleep which was very sweet cause it steps into things getting back to normal.

Also finally had the chance to be home and do laundry. I’m eager to have fresh clean clothing after prolonging it cause of the chaos.

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You are a very responsible and caring Swang, I am glad things get better!

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Glad to hear things have improved, even if it’s only a little :slight_smile: rehab is often a long process, but physio will be the key to them getting home. Once again they will need your strength, but be sure to look after yourself too. You matter just as much :slight_smile:

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This beautiful soul made it home today, love them to death.

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Yesterday evening, got a call that my dad went into hospital because of a heart attack. Saw him last night and this morning. Thankfully, he will pull through. He actually drove to the hospital whilst having the heart attack. One of his arteries was clotted up. They said they wern’t able to remove all the clot, so he’ll have to be medicated. My dad is a 69 year old life long smoker, who still hasn’t retired yet from bricklaying. Needless to say, he’s going to consider what his life will be after he is out.

He should hopefully be out Sunday. I saw him today, and a bunch of other family members are visiting through the day. Taken the day off work today myself, will go back tomorrow. Just feel shocked and exhausted from the whole thing.

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Glad to hear your dad is recovering, that must’ve been so scary :confused: I know a truck driver who had a heart attack behind the wheel of a big rig on the highway, so your dad’s ability to drive through all that is crazy!

It sounds like there’ll be a lot of lifestyle changes to come, but until then you should look after yourself and rest as best you can :slight_smile:

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Just got done having an hour-long discussion with the AI Claude about how meaningless life is and Jesus Christ, I’ve never in my life experienced a robot telling me so many times to seek professional help. It was surreal. And the goddamned thing just depressed me again with its insistence.

not surprising since a lot of these A.I developers have conditioned their models to default to this behavior, it’s no different to searching something ā€œconcerningā€ on Google and it defaulting to Self Harm Hotlines insisting to seek help.

the real concerning thing is people using AI templates to develop full fledge relationships with them as a sense of emotional anchor…. Strange world we live in.

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