Canāt even imagine, and canāt think of any words that wonāt sound like condescending crap from a privileged one who hasnāt experienced it, so Iāll just say to stay strong and Iām hoping for the best outcome in the fastest time for you.
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Stay strong 
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Oh brother Iām sorry to hear this. Hang in there! Sending hugs 
to you and your partner.
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Iām so sorry to hear about what happened, itās the call nobody wants to get 
but at least theyāre stable and theyāre in the best place they could be right now (except, of course, back home)
Maybe see if you can take some time off work to be with your partner, at least until the dust settles and you have a clearer picture what the coming weeks will look like. I wish you both a swift recovery
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Thank You Everyone even for the birthday wishes.
Itās just gonna be a long road ahead and Iām trying to not let things that are being said get to me cause I know they donāt mean it.
Iāve probably spent 2.5 Days sleeping here at the hospital. While theyāre awake I just know with the pain theyāre in Iām put in impossibilities.
Cause of the pain and anxiety they want a vape, I canāt get them that cause of hospital regulations. These bouts happen cause of in between periods for medications most prominently in the morning during shift changes with nurses.
The trauma they faced makes them think I want them to suffer that Iām not doing anything. I know Iām doing a lot, running around making sure their job knows what happened, getting them whatever I can to make them feel comfortable such as Oragel or Gatorade. I just wish I could take this pain away from them but I canāt.
The road ahead is rough, I just know the sooner we get passed with hospital the sooner I can meet their needs.
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Damn youāre in a tough situation but youāre doing all the right things. The pain will heal and when theyāre out of the hospital, theyāll realize the things you did for their sake while they were in it.
Itās just the period before then that will test you both, when the pain makes them say things they normally wouldnāt. But this here is what brings out the best in the bond with our partners: persevering through thick and thin for the person we care about, even when we think we canāt go on. Youāll both be stronger for it, when youāre eventually through the woods.
In a situation where everything seems to have changed, be their constant and know that while there are things you canāt help with, simply being there makes the world of difference.
Youāre doing just fine 
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Good News.
My Partner has been moved from Trauma into the Rehabilitation Wing.
also good news someone created a GoFundMe with the intention of securing them a new Car. So far $860 out of the $4000 goal has been reached. Been mainly asking friends and family if they can donate something and that if they canāt to at the very least share it around.
Things are getting better, itās the first time since the accident where I laid with them. And I managed to get them relaxed and asleep which was very sweet cause it steps into things getting back to normal.
Also finally had the chance to be home and do laundry. Iām eager to have fresh clean clothing after prolonging it cause of the chaos.
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You are a very responsible and caring Swang, I am glad things get better!
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Glad to hear things have improved, even if itās only a little rehab is often a long process, but physio will be the key to them getting home. Once again they will need your strength, but be sure to look after yourself too. You matter just as much
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Yesterday evening, got a call that my dad went into hospital because of a heart attack. Saw him last night and this morning. Thankfully, he will pull through. He actually drove to the hospital whilst having the heart attack. One of his arteries was clotted up. They said they wernāt able to remove all the clot, so heāll have to be medicated. My dad is a 69 year old life long smoker, who still hasnāt retired yet from bricklaying. Needless to say, heās going to consider what his life will be after he is out.
He should hopefully be out Sunday. I saw him today, and a bunch of other family members are visiting through the day. Taken the day off work today myself, will go back tomorrow. Just feel shocked and exhausted from the whole thing.
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Glad to hear your dad is recovering, that mustāve been so scary I know a truck driver who had a heart attack behind the wheel of a big rig on the highway, so your dadās ability to drive through all that is crazy!
It sounds like thereāll be a lot of lifestyle changes to come, but until then you should look after yourself and rest as best you can
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Just got done having an hour-long discussion with the AI Claude about how meaningless life is and Jesus Christ, Iāve never in my life experienced a robot telling me so many times to seek professional help. It was surreal. And the goddamned thing just depressed me again with its insistence.
not surprising since a lot of these A.I developers have conditioned their models to default to this behavior, itās no different to searching something āconcerningā on Google and it defaulting to Self Harm Hotlines insisting to seek help.
the real concerning thing is people using AI templates to develop full fledge relationships with them as a sense of emotional anchorā¦. Strange world we live in.
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Yes, I got the sense of that really quickly, how easily it would be to settle into a niche of feeling like it was an actual conversation rather than just talking to essentially a digital mirror. I tried best I could to steer the responses in another direction, but they each kept coming with an insistence to seek help. Like Iām some kinda nut job! (shut up, all of you 
)
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Iāve been working, a lot. Almost fifty plus hour weeks and well yea. Iāve been doing that because a lot of stuff going on and Iām just trying to get ahead and stay afloat here.
Partner lost her car a few weeks back, decided to take it in stride. Just waiting for the insurance to payout so we can put that towards something. Theyāve been only working partial hours. Mainly hours where I can take them to their job which is an hour and five minutes away. Then to my job which is an hour in the opposite direction, for then me to drive back to grab them and then another hour five back to our apartment. Collectively that amounts to roughly 12 hours of driving a week to put into perspective.
My partner was meant to transfer back to the store they originally were at prior to the move, ergo down the street from my job which was the plan, til it wasnāt. And the transfer isnāt going forward now leaving them in a āno manās landā situation where their job is in limbo.
As of now Iām just working, going to bed, rinse, repeat. Making sure rent is paid, and covering necessities. Hopefully this week things finally work in my favor and have i have cash I can set aside for 007 where I can hopefully have time to play come my day off on Sunday.
itās wishful thinking but Iām hopeful.
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When you live paycheck to paycheck, you really are working not to live, but to maintain your current standard of living and itās hard to break out of that work-sleep-work cycle when you havenāt got the time to progress out of it. Though itās not impossible
On average I do 105 per week (plus bleeps) but Iām fortunate that it comes in concentrated bursts, while youāve got this undercurrent of Groundhog Day. If your partner is on partial hours, does that mean they have time to do some job searching for you? Not to apply on your behalf, but at least to see if thereās a better deal for you out there. Maybe slightly higher pay or closer to where youāre based.
P.S I hope your partner is doing better after the accident
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The French call it āMĆ©tro, boulot, dodo.ā Ride the subway, go to work, go to sleep. Been there. Itās terrible. Donāt be afraid to take a day to yourself.
Or maybe for them? Something closer to your work? Sorry for trying to fix it. Iām sure you have thought all this through already. I hope it gets better.
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For context, my job isnāt the issue itās more so theirs. But to answer the question sorta. Theyāre gonna be applying to places and inevitably leave their job getting something in the areas which I work in.
the reason why me leaving my job is out of the equation for the time being is largely due to insurance, opportunity/growth, and financial freedom. itās a process but it takes time and Iām on the track. I do have things to fall back on if things donāt pan out in the event i need to search for a ābetter jobā .
They are! Just trying to maintain morale and keep them happy. Itās a proverbial tug of war battle. But they know Iāll do my best by them.
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The war to keep them safe and happy is the only one worth fighting
I wish them luck on switching jobs and maybe they should have a break between them? A few weeks of mental recovery before they launch into something new
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