So since late July my Aunt and her two kids aka my Cousins have been staying with us. They kinda just showed up out of the blue despite us telling them they canāt stay with us because we simply donāt have the space for three other people and weāve been trying to keep the house as quiet as possible since thatās how we like it. Iāve made more than enough comprises during their stay that I wonāt get into here.
My Aunt has been pushing our limits these last three weeks simply because sheād run off into the city and disappear over night doing things she shouldnāt be doing leaving her youngest with us. Iāve already made it clear she can no longer run off doing what she is doing because we both have jobs in which she canāt take advantage of us like this. I already moved our spare key to the house somewhere new where only the people who actually need to know where it is know. My aunt is well aware that if she continues doing what she is doing she isnāt welcomed back.
Well today she ran off into the city again and took her kid just to put us in a moral dilemma. We canāt lock a 7 year old out. Well she came back and brought a kitten too. As much as I love animals I am livid that she didnāt speak with us first simply cause we donāt have the space let alone time to look after one.
She is well aware that her time with us is temporary and isnāt a permanent solution to her housing. Weāve tried getting her government assistance but she denied it cause she didnāt wanna move north and weāve been giving her various ads and numbers of apartments for rent nearby to which theyāve been falling on deaf ears.
Her youngest isnāt disciplined (timeout, getting grounded, tablet/toys taken away) so most nights itās a lot of crying and and screaming matches to which I only involve myself when I absolutely have to which I have intervene and told my aunt that she (her daughter) has to come home with her home work folder and do her school work. If she doesnāt then Iām gonna have to start taking away stuff that her daughter uses that I pay for (Disney+, Internet Access, Etc).
Iām just beyond annoyed that I have to start parenting my 7 year old cousin and by extension my 46 year old aunt. My aunt knows she has til the end of October to find a permanent solution to her housing which I feel three months is more than enough to figure out a solution.
Had a talk with my therapist. Good talk. Have a better plan for what to do now.
Iām still not doing too good and very anxious tonight tho. Please send virtual hugs.
Edit: I may have just posted a hype comment in the PS thread but really Iām just restless and stressed tonight.
Weāre at the point now where weāre gonna have to call children and youth cause she ran off with her kid again last night without saying anything while I was mowing the lawn.
She went to the city and was doing things she shouldnāt be doing especially with a 7 Year old around. My Aunt didnāt get home til 10:30-11 last night (keep in mind the little one has school im the morning and didnāt do her homework yet.)
Iām gonna be chewing my aunt out when I get home from work. Iāll be taking the little one for ice cream alone and see what she has to say just so I can get a grasp of the situation before we report anything.
Actually before I deleted it my earlier comment had a second part that went something like āmaybe just get DCFS to come take the kid away. Then you can boot the aunt out and not feel bad.ā
At the end of the day she is forcing our hands despite the warnings we gave. The childās well-being matters to me more and itās tough situation but morally speaking as an adult I have to do the right thing and get the child out of a situation that will harm her growth.
I have recently been exposed to some shock sites and NSFL content, I did not look at any of these sites purposely, many of them were bait-and-switch. I will not say or link what the sites were for the safety of you guys, but im just shook and traumatized from what was on these sites (will not share this either)
Itās war now, and I canāt even process it, my group chats are flooded with missing people, friends that live in the south told me that they canāt leave their homes due to shots outside and social media is blasted with dead people and videos of terrorists running around in the streets.
I got called back to the base and I couldnāt even be upset about it āruining my weekendā considering everything that goes on, I keep hearing about friends of friends of friends that got murdered or kidanapped, hearing about people that luckily got away from the party at Berry, and some that didnāt had luck, this is scary, really scary, I just want this war to be over with, my heart is pounding while I write this, I just canāt do it.
Take care of you and your family mate. My brother in law is at University of Jerusalem. I am concerned about him as well. He went there this year to pursue higher education.
Switcher does/did his basic military service every Israeli man has to do when becoming adult. I think so far that was supportive work, not being a soldier. Maybe he is willing to give some details but I doubt he has the time.
Israel, currently doing Logistics in the Air Force (donāt want to go into specifics), Iām currently doing an all nighter and itās 2 am for me so my mind is melting, I am so tired I canāt even look at this screen, this is for sure the longest day in my entire life, so absurd.
Please take care! Wishing you a lot of strength. Canāt imagine how hard this is for you, I sometimes already have trouble just writing about it and deciding what pictures to show (as an editor for a local news website I see a lot of pictures that nobody should ever have to see).
Luckily itās pretty safe out here, and I live in the center of israel, north to Tel Aviv so my family is safe too.
I went down the hell hole of watching the videos that are going around the internet, including the woman that they broke her legs and took her clothes off after killing her, the slaughtered soldiers of Golani that were all murdered while they slept, multiple videos of kidanapped people and so much more, theres no way any violent video or picture can be uploaded in here, itās horrific.
copied message from discord
The scariest thing about the situation is how everyone know someone that got murdered, or know someone that know someone that got murdered, someone from my grade got killed, and every single person around me knows someone too, itās destructive.
700 dead.
