🗣 Sessions with Lafayette - Serious Issues Thread

[Switcher]

@Switcher

Funny enough I started a new job this week too, currently in training, salesman for the SAT-like course I actually took myself.
There are ups and downs because in training it’s mostly measuring us for every answer but yeah, fun.

True advice, it’s a part time job and you’ll probably move on to something better so just try to have fun and not to get fired

I’m @ @TheAtlanticTempest because I think you are the one that needs to hear it the most.

Update: I got fired like a month later.
tldr: Theres always something good waiting at the horizon.

When I applied to that sales job I actually did not care if they would hire me or not, I had another “job” going on that had me sleeping for the week in a dorm at that place and I kinda got sick of it and I wanted something that I could go back home everyday.

But when I got to that Sales interview I did pretty nice, they liked me and I got hired.
Welp, turns out that I am not good at sales. “Oh No SuCh An ImPoRtAnT sKiLl” yeah whatever, but, it truly broke me that I gave up on a place I did great at and they loved me (I did not want to come back) and moved to a place where I got fired so quickly (I was fired near the end of the training, I did not even made it past the training that’s dogshit).

Welp, I am not the kind of person to be jobless at any point of their life (other than school and such, obvs.)

I applied like a couple of days later to a shitty store just so I could find a reason to get out of bed in the morning, and you know what, I HATED IT, as soon as I got there I hated it, I thought that some of my coworkers were idiots, my managers were egocentric, that the job was too easy and boring (at least be boring that I can scroll Twitter or something, pure boredom) and that the pay wasn’t worth it to be at a place that sucks so badly.

It got me to think about what I am as a person actually worth, what are my strengths, and from there I thought about the last 3 years I spent at the previous “job”, the one I left for the sales, what was I good at over there, and the answer was driving! Over there I was transporting goods so now I need something similar because this is what I love and good at.

On the 1st day in the shitty store I found this cool job online as a Transportations Driver for a Vehicle Manufacturer, I am basically driving the customers cars to repairs and such and meanwhile giving them another car so they would not be limited.

Honestly, I love it! Pay is nice, driving is easy and fun for me so that’s great and the coworkers are nice.
Well customers are sometimes awful and sometimes unbelievebly awesome but it’s all just experiences gathered.

The lesson learned here is that theres always something better, you just need to figure out what is best for you!

[Swangtheugly]

@Switcher

The lesson learned here is that theres always something better, you just need to figure out what is best for you!

I can back this.

Been in the workforce since I was 14, stuck with the same place for the better part of a decade. Left that job to be apart of a major sub chain. One year later and I’m next in line to be “Phased Up” and by extension when this happens and everything goes right I’ll have my own store and will be making significantly more than people who went to college to get a job.

It’s was a scary time for me, but it’s cause I was putting myself in an uncomfortable position that I wasn’t in before.

Now I’m happier than I ever was and have more free time to do whatever I want.

[Switcher]

Reminds me of an old friend of mine that I am not sure if he runs his own store in the chain but if not now he’ll probably run his own Mcdonalds restaurant, it’s crazy with how much hard work you can get to great promotions in these kind of places.

Also, you started working AT 14?! Dude that’s insanely young, I had my first job at 16, is it even legal to start at 14? I mean, I had 14 yrolds working with me at some jobs but these cases were illegal, they were paid in cash unwritten.

[Swangtheugly]

@Switcher

is it even legal to start at 14?

It is very legal and had tax forums and paystubs to back it.

[Switcher]

That sounds awesome then! Differences around the world I guess…

[thefixer47]

Thank God I don’t need to worry about jobs yet.
@TheAtlanticTempest I’m sorry you have to go through this, bad relatives are the worst. Thankfully my parents are really good to me, so I won’t lie and say I know how you feel.
I can only hope things get better for you, take care of yourself!

[Count.Rushmore]

@TheAtlanticTempest I wish you strength and patience to get over this crap

[Tetrafish_21]

@TheAtlanticTempest

There’s no job market for Broadcast Media Production,

@TheAtlanticTempest

I haven’t held a job since last year

If I may ask, what was the job? I wonder what the job was?

Why does the job you get have to be… working in a local television or news studio?

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Personal anecdote time.

I had contracted JRA in the 6th or 7th grade. I got it first in my right knee, then my left a year later. Along with joint deterioration, I also had bone deformation in the form of knock-knees. It was painful to do most “normal” things like standing for long periods, or carrying/lifting heavy items.

Since that would limit me from keeping a “normal” job, I got a Pell Grant. I had to go to an evaluation center where I took test after test. All in an effort to find out about things like what my interests were… Essentially, narrowing down what field I’d be best suited for.

From that, I eventually got into a course to study computer-aided drafting… All paid for via the Pell Grant, thanks to my body’s immune system wanting to attack my knee joints.

After working in a plastic injection molding machine “toy factory” (one of the most stressful jobs /fact), I then began working as a “linen stripper”. I got the job because my mother worked as a maid in the same hotel. I had initially applied for the overnight job working at the front desk. But that was already taken. So they offered me the linen stripper/laundry person job.

I did that for (I think) a year and a half. Then got the overnight desk job… While still working in the laundry.

I finally got a knee joint replacement for my right knee when I was 23. Since I still lived with my father at the time, I was covered under his health insurance since he was a state employee. “Any child still living at home up to the age of 25”

I never did get a job in AutoCADD, but am still working the overnight desk “Night Auditor” job to this very. freaking. day. What can I say? It’s an easy job, all at the cost of having your sleep schedule out of whack most of the time.

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I’m sure your dad still cares for you, and probably doesn’t know of any better way to, well, push you out of the nest (as they say) so you can fly on your own. Nobody is going to just get into an easy or well-paying job without getting their hands dirty first.

Sorry in advance if this is all “No shit, Sherlock” info. So good luck in… becoming independent.

Maybe you could start at (local t.v. station) at some lower/entry level and work your way up.

[pissfloyd]

I’ll echo this and I’m not doing it to be mean. I don’t know @TheAtlanticTempest whole situation and I understand that fathers can be abhorrent cunts, but you’re 22. Start looking for a job. Any job. And while you’re contributing to your own existence and not leeching off of your old man, you can look for the dream job.

Again, he might be truly toxic and shitty, but these circumstances probably aren’t helping the situation. Wish you luck, man.

[pissfloyd]

If you have been working why is he pushing you to find work. A few posts up you said you were wasting your time with reddit and other hobbies and now you’ve suddenly had three if not more jobs in the same period?

[pissfloyd]

If you can only hold a job for a couple of days maybe he’s trying to help you with some tough love? I know it sucks bro, but you’re not in a position to ignore him and claim he’s “too invasive”. He wants you to get your shit together, you’re an adult now. Saying you feel like stabbing him has made me drop all empathy I had for you, sorry. Good luck with it.

[pissfloyd]

When you post things online you’re kind of inviting scrutiny and critique. Sorry you feel that way, wish you luck.

[pissfloyd]

I think I’ve been exceptionally nice to you. Breath mate, take it easy.

[pissfloyd]

@TheAtlanticTempest

so forgive me if I’m a little antsy.

It’s totally fine my man, no sweat.

I can understand why you might have seen it as “grilling” but I’m literally just taking what you’ve said (browsing reddit since last year/not being able to hold a job) and trying to say maybe that’s partly why your dad is doing the things he is and maybe there’s a solution in there in solving the job issue. I’m sorry if that offended you.

And I’m sorry he was abusive to you growing up, no one should have to experience that. Big empathy for that and makes your comment about stabbing him make sense. Sorry for the misunderstanding <3

[pissfloyd]

Realistically, what do you want from me to rectify the situation?

[Swangtheugly]

what I’m gathering from all this is OP worked a few jobs but it was nothing full time or they couldn’t hold it down for XYZ reasons.

if from my understanding is correct the dad has a relatively conservative and traditional view points also.

im trying to grasp this situation fully, without trying to tell you what to do, but rather give a suggestion.

and my suggestion is to try to find a steady line of work, it may not be with whatever degree you may have. but work is work.

again this is all how I’m interpreting this information.

tough love is a thing, the issue is cause of modern sensibilities somewhere along the line it gets lost in aggression.

this

@TheAtlanticTempest

Dad’s forcing his way into my life again since I haven’t held a job since last year and my sleep schedule’s all over the place.

this

@TheAtlanticTempest

He set lights out at 11PM and wants me to report all the job applications I’m making.

and lastly this

@TheAtlanticTempest

I haven’t done much aside from prowl Reddit and use ChatGPT to generate stories, newspaper articles and 2028 US election fantasy football, so maybe I do need some direction.

Your answers are all within here and self reflection in my opinion should be the next step.

Ask yourself if you’re happy spending your early 20’s doing all this stuff? Is it enriching? Is it satisfying? Do you feel like your day was productive?

Most importantly and this is the big one simply ask your dad why he’s incorporating these rules and in your words forcing himself into your life.

Perspective matters, and this is the part I need to get across. We only have your side of the story, we don’t expect your father to create an account, hop on this thread, and then we end up have interpersonal family drama happening here in real time between two users… no. Rather this is my suggestion, have a real conversation with your old man. It may be awkward, uncomfortable, but simply listening and getting a new perspective is everything. Somewhere your father is probably hurting because he wants you to succeed, but nothing is panning out for you. If he was truly done with you, you both wouldn’t have had Chinese Takeout.

[pissfloyd]

I feel like I already apologised for shooting too fast in response to the stabbing comment. I’m not gonna have you dictate me on deleting my posts and what opinions I can and can’t have. Even if they may offend you. Happy job search.

[pissfloyd]

@TheAtlanticTempest

Pissfloyd insisted on needling me and sneering and refusing to genuinely apologise once even when I specifically ask him to

Oh please, are you actually serious? I’m a stranger on an game forum, you can’t demand me to delete my opinions or decide my apologies aren’t good enough for you and demand new ones. I hate to say it, but maybe there’s a reason you can’t hold a job if this is how you conduct yourself IRL too.

[Silvereyes]

Guys, I think it’s time to maybe cool things down. I’d like to keep this thread being a positive and constructive outlet. If you really feel the need to settle things, you can take it to PMs, or if you really feel it’s neccesary, perhaps involve a moderator.

[pissfloyd]

I was confused what you wanted from me considering you weren’t accepting my apology. I didn’t see your requests and demands as reasonable and declined to abide.