🗣 Sessions with Lafayette - Serious Issues Thread

[Charlie_Farmer]

When you loose a family member, it begins a tough process to get through. Sometimes you don’t get through it, sometimes you still think about that person every waking moment. But it’s important to reflect on what they brung to their life. What they gave you and what they left you.

You’ve managed to complete a massive hurdle already Dave. You’ve started to open yourself up in a time of stress and worry and sadness and you’re starting to show how you feel. Your dad must have meant a lot of you and your family. As Gontranno said, you show a great deal of strength just by opening yourself up. Don’t let the unfortunate circumstance bring you down, let it remind you of the good he gave you and the good thats still with you.

I hope you and your family will go forward make it though this. I hope you all the best.

[MrOchoa]

I’m so sorry for your loss @magicdave94

But at least he died in his own home surrounded by his loved ones. Stay strong and focus on the good memories

[BlossomFox]

I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss. I have no idea how it must feel. I’m not the best with words, but I really, really feel for you.
Thank you for being such a wonderful community member who we all really care about . Here is a big hug from all of us (and a little picture for good luck).

[djsojus]

So sorry for your loss @magicdave94 !

[Count.Rushmore]

May I express my deepest condolences for your loss.
Stay strong. We all eventually will meet there

[thefixer47]

My condolences mate! I can’t possibly imagine how it must feel like. Don’t worry about crying, opening up is good if you are comfortable with it. I hope the best for you and for your family

[Yacob]

Oh Mano I’m so sorry to hear that. Be strong for your Ma and your Brother when they are feeling it most they will do the same for you!

Sending hugs!

[Captain_Ah_Vong]

I’m deeply sorry for your recent bereavement. I know how it feels to lose loved ones in your life, and I know it can really hit like an absolute trainwreck of bricks that leaves you motionless and in pieces at the same time. Cancer is such a drain on so many people and the world, and I truly yearn for a time in medical science that we are able to eradicate this horrible biological instance before invaluable lives are snatched away cruelly.

Every single death of a loved one hits you severely and the impact is felt differently from person to person. Don’t feel like you were out of place for acting like the way you did. Everybody does it differently, and the fact remains is that you’re a human being who deserves to take control and care of their feelings and emotions in a healthy way. If you need to let out your tears, even randomly or out of character like you implied it to be, it isn’t a bad thing. You’ve had a huge shock and you need time to process this life-changing event. You’ve also mentioned that you’re emotionally taking care of your mother as well which in itself is a very noble thing to do. You and your brother should be proud of yourselves for doing a good thing for all of you. In times like this, you really find out those who you deem as your close knit family and loved ones. I hope that with time, you and your family can pick yourselves up slowly from this event and know that there’s many on here hoping for you. Stay strong out there.

And this finally goes without saying, but the warmth and memories of the times you shared with your father will never fade away as the heart’s memories will always be strong. It doesn’t forget And I sincerely hope that the good fond memories you’ve all kept hold of inside you will be reminding you to look into the light when you find yourself in the dark.

I hope that helps even in a small way. Like I said, keep on keeping on and take care of yourselves through this difficult period.

[schatenjager]

I lost mine in 2014 from the same thing. I think it does get easier over time, but I still miss him every day. Condolences.

[Yacob]

I was “at work” for 17 hours and 38 min a couple days ago. Flying Charlotte to Chicago, to Salt Lake City, and back to Chicago. On the last leg we diverted to Peoria. Landed in Peoria at 4:40pm but sat in the penalty box until 9:30pm. We had about 150 customers on board, but even if we hadn’t, 5 hours sitting in a plane on the ground that is slowly running out of everything is no fun. Eventually the food, water, and toilet paper ran out. We timed out when we got to the gate (really hours before that, but had no where to go so we just keep waiting) but we weren’t the only plane full of people that timed out in Peoria so it took about 2 hours to find lodging and then another 90 min to find transportation. The only silver lining is that in Peoria there are no tavern liquor licences only bar/restaurants and there to keep serving booze you must offer their entire lunch/dinner menu; we were able to get a really solid meal even though it was well after midnight in a town that barely has an aeroport. My crew was super low stress about it and they helped set the tone for customers. When we finally got off the plane and spoke to the other 5 crews it sounded like their experiences were much worse than ours. One of the ground customer service managers went to hospital becasuse of some altercation with angry people. We didn’t get the details, just glad that wasn’t us.

[Gontranno47]

It sounds like we have similar experiences, I’ve been planebound at Charlotte for 3 hours, which feels like days when you’ve got a crucial connection to make!

Is there something that can be done to mitigate a situation like that? Like having extra supplies near the departure gate to be loaded onboard in the event of prolonged delays? I wish all airliners would comp but not all do (or partial comp).

At least you got to see Peoria, which you wouldn’t have ordinarily explored

[Frost]

My deepest condolences to you and your family.

[Yacob]

The Govt could not allow is many flights, but they won’t bc capitalism.

When there is bad weather at a big port like Chicago or Atlanta there are just so many diversions that the little airports around them can’t cope with it all.

[Swangtheugly]

Post isn’t entirely serious just a strange encounter with relationships.

In a moment of humility or I guess narcissism depending on how you see i had to make a very strange and bold choice.

I’ve reached a point in my twenties where people are “match-making” me. For context to say I have a very tumultuous time with relationships would be an understatement. Particularly for reasons of dating in my age bracket is absolutely terrible since it boils down to really shallow people with unrealistic standards, the “casual nothing serious encounter”, or just straight love bombing then promptly get cold feet soon after.

Because if this I’ve kinda become weary with the whole dating game. Self admittedly using glorified meat market apps such as Tinder or Bumble our absolutely terrible and shouldn’t be used to base one’s worth and value since most of the time they base it on that first picture.

So to say I’ve been navigating relationships, finding love, etc would be accurate in a way. I’m at a crossroads now where if it happens it happens. Won’t force it to come my way… my time will come.

This brings me back to people being Match-Maker. Recently I’ve been being “shipped” with a woman who I have never met and this person doing the “shipping” knows this woman through affiliation that being her older sister. I was able to see a picture of her too. Natural red hair, fair skin, thin, photographer who lack of a better way to put it takes the world by their bootstraps and lives a more active life than me.

Beautiful, but I mean it with the purest of intentions.

Well turns out one of my Best Friends who rides motorcycles is now affiliated with the Match Maker’s sister and by extension the red headed photographer.

Me seeing the way things are it was a little too close to home at this point and i didn’t wanna get involved with one of my best friends passions through inadvertent affiliation or simply put it worlds colliding. It’s his passion and hobby and I wouldn’t wanna ruin it for him.

So I preemptively took charge of a situation before the Match Maker could toss any names or ideas around and reached out to the photographer explaining everything I mentioned above pertaining to lifestyle differences, my friendship with my friend and his hobby, and just how someone is trying to play Cupid.

In a way I self sabotaged and was honest when I did it. Emphasizing how they lead an entirely more interesting life and how I’m comfortable being a home body who loves to be around his niece and intentionally drives a beat up 05 outback. And to simply put it wouldn’t wanna hold them back if my name came around. Just two different people in too widely different ponds.

So yea, I haven’t told the person playing Match Maker I did this. In the end part of me did out of respect for my friends passion and of course so this photographer woman could hopefully find the right person who can be more active and engage in that life of hers.

[Gontranno47]

Good for you, for thinking of everyone else even the photographer you never met! Often these matchmakers are trying to help by thinking everyone needs to be paired up, but don’t always see the bigger picture.

But hey, at least they thought enough of you to consider you for such an active person!

[BlossomFox]

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(I’m posting this here as it might be too much for the fundraiser mod thread - (Fundraiser) Blossom Fest!)

[Heisenberg]

Oh god, it’s happening again.

My dog got sick again last night, and we took her to the emergency vet, and they kept her comfortable and stable while she was there, but they had too many emergency cases, severely sick pets coming in and some who I know passed away while we were there. So, once her regular vet opened, we discharged her from the emergency place and took her to the regular one.

The results were our greatest fear. She has something in her chest that, put plainly, is going to kill her and we can’t do anything. My wife and I are planning to have her put to sleep sometime this week, possibly the next if she hangs on and we can’t arrange things sooner.

This is killing me and my wife. As I spoke of before, I joined this forum two weeks after we had to put down my last dog. It was the most decreasing time of my life, so far. The four year anniversary was just two weeks ago. And now I’m going to have to do it again.

Peach has been with us for almost four years now, which we estimate to be about half her life. Considering the puppy mill she came from, we like to think we’ve given her a better life for the second half. Having to go through this again so soon, especially when I still haven’t fully gotten over the last time, I’m feeling sick. My wife and I have a lot of arrangements to make and questions we must ask ourselves, and it’s going to be an extremely hard time.

I’m not sure what I believe in anymore at this time in my life, but I pray for strength.

[Gontranno47]

I’m sorry you’re going through this all over again. Feeling what you are now, but also having the old feelings resurface from before.

We never have enough time to process or enough time to plan, when you have roughly a week to make such a big decision. But know that you’ve done right by her, and whatever you decide will be in her best interest.

I wish you and your wife the strength to do what you must, and the strength to bare it.

[Heisenberg]

Thank you, my friend.I needed that.

[Heisenberg]

It’s going to be today. Within the next hour. She’s so tired and weak, and unable to eat her regular food. We took her to her favorite park one more time in her wagon, let her have her favorites: apple slices, a Starbucks pup cup, French fries, and blue buffalo brand salmon treats. We made ink and clay impressions of her paws, and put everything we can in order. We’re going to do it at home, in her favorite spot in the living room. God, get me through this.